“There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:
This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package..."
Time for some Sunday night positive thoughts...and some new quotes from me.
"If you have to listen to those nasty voices in your head then do so only long enough to tell them to Shut Up, sit down and meet their replacements... the positive voices that will kick their butts!" ~Stacey
"Sometimes, when you think everything can go wrong, it does. Instead try thinking that everything will go right and allow yourself to be pleasantly surprised by the power of positivity." ~Stacey
Every woman and girl should say this to themselves every day!
LOL my friends know this is so true about me...
Stay positive... Stay Happy!! It really is that simple. ~Stacey
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don't even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and I feel so rough
Now you're just somebody that I used to know...
So as it happens with me, I have found a new song I am so currently obsessed with that I listen to it 3 or 4 times a day. I am not right but hey, that's just how I roll. There have been many, and there is no rhyme or reason as to why I fall in love with them, I just do. They all mean something to me and speak to me in a variety of ways. God, don't you just love music? Here's my latest one...
Gotye - featuring-Kimbra
Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
Part of me believing it was always something that I'd done
But I don't wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
Me? read meaning into every word you say? nahhhh Never! ...ahem Yeah, it's a girl thing I think. Exhausting but we still do it. Well I used to to anyway, for a bit. This guys voice is just doing it for me. And adding Kimbra to it makes it even better!
I heard this song a few weeks ago and was hooked. It's not on the 'sick of it' rotation yet (like they do with every good song) so it's hard to find it. I could never figure out what it was called and then I saw it in a commercial for Glee 2 days ago and last night that's how I found it.
Matt Bomer & Darren Criss
I love what they did with it, I love how they made it about a brother to brother relationship. Plus - that Matt... deliciously easy on the eyes don't you think?
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I'll admit that I was glad that it was over...
But I still think Gotye's version is better. You see his pain as he sings of the end of a relationship, and the inevitable disintegration of the "we'll still be friends" promise we use like salve on a wound.
Rewind 2 years... the man in my life was trying to decide if he was staying or leaving, with me. He had been stringing me along... I mean pondering his decision for a few months and all I heard play in my head was this song.
Adele makes everything hauntingly beautiful when she sings it, but this is just fantastic. Oh and my story? He didn't choose me. As Garth Brooks said many years ago ..."Some of God's greatest gifts, are unanswered prayers."
I think it's time to start writing quotes again. I have been working on the book but not on any NEW quote/poetry writing. I find I write my best stuff when I am falling in love, or recovering from falling in love- happy or heartbroken - that's when my creative juices flow.
But since I have been doing/feeling neither of those two things in the past year or so I haven't written anything new. I think that is sad. Why should I need some guy in my life (or out of it...) to do something that I love and that motivates me so much.
Christ, I am basically living my dream right now. I live at the damn beach. Yes, I am working at a job I hate, making next to no money BUT "If you are lucky enough to live at the beach, you are lucky enough."
And that is really my only complaint about living here right now... seriously. I love my house. Love my dogs, LOVE my alone time and the idea that I can do what I want, when I want, where I want. When I miss my family I call them on the phone. I see my dad twice a month and my mom once or twice a month when she comes down with him. My friends come down to visit and I speak to the kid every day and get to see her and her hubby this coming weekend. I need to prime the pump, so to speak... do a little introspective thinking. Sit on the boards and embrace the ocean, feel the music of the sea.
I need to stop letting my lack of money suck all the good out of everything I have right now. Over the past few months I've lost a few people - 3 of them under the age of 45- and none of them ready to go. It's made me think of my own mortality and that of my family and friends. It's made me realize that sometimes I simply exist day to day instead of truly living. Not what I should be doing. And since writing brings my soul a bit closer to the edges, makes me feel a bit more deeply and breathe a bit more freely...well it stands to reason that it is time to write. That said, I have brought out some quotes from the book to share with the blogosphere. Quotes that make me think of Matt, and Mr. C and Johnny Famous. Megan and Mark... all those gone but not forgotten. Also since it's almost Spring, it's time for a little Spring cleaning - which this first quote is all about. Only instead of Spring cleaning the house, some of us need to clean out the closets of our hearts and minds...
"When life overwhelms us, and we have no time to even breathe, we
need to remember to hold close those people that truly matter to us. It's at
this time that we find out who we have room for in our lives, and who is
expendable.We "clean the closets" of our heart and throw away what we
don't need. By doing this we are able to make room for what (who) we really
love. It's a necessary process in life." ~Stacey Charter This next one really touches me... even tho I wrote it. It is so important to make sure you tell those you love how you feel. It can't be said enough. God forbid I should pass away, I want my friends and my family, my daughter, to know exactly what they have meant to me. And i do it in different ways. I tell them in text, in person on facebook, in my blog. What is the point of feeling the way you do and not letting them know.
"So many of us put off for tomorrow those words we should
say today. Hold with gentle hands those you love. Tell them how you feel
and show them how important they are to you. So many times we feel, but don't
show, our hearts content. Appreciate those in your life that make you smile,
think, laugh and cry. They will not always be there and need to know
how important they are to you." ~Stacey Charter
This one speaks for itself. It is probably the truest representation of me that I have ever written and I say it all in 2 simple sentences...
"Alice knew that falling down that rabbit hole was not the smartest thing to do. But life was short & she never could say no when there was fun to be had!" ~Stacey Charter
Thank you, as always, for taking the time to read what I write. Please leave a comment if you'd like or share it with your friends. You can click on the "Share this on facebook" link to do that as well. Get ready for some new stuff coming up... I feel it's about that time.
Wishing you all peace, love, and positive thoughts! ~Stacey
Tho I must say since I was here at the beach this year, instead of at the Blarney Stone(like last year and soooo many years before) I managed to make no bad decisions.
But sometimes those bad decisions can be so damn fun.
I did miss the hub-bub and the crowd;
seeing my friends and seeing the step-dancers on the bar...
Staying in this year was a $$$ choice but in the end, better to leave it to the amateurs and enjoy myself at home - Which i actually did!
I was actually sober this year, while watching my annual trip to Ireland movie -
The Quiet Man!
And while i do so...
I had a few drinks alone and talked to friends on the phone, on Facebook and via text. Got to see pics from other folks - wish my 3 St. Paddy's day peeps Happy Birthday and laugh at all the great pics I could find...
Tho i'd much rather be doing this...
then counting change to buy dog food. LOL Soon... I can feel it in my bones. Something better job wise is right around the corner. After all, If i don't put that positivity out into the universe, and think that way, how am I supposed to make my dreams come true?
(Above quote from John Taylor with a line added by me)
Dear God, Watch over my (Matt) Cut him some slack. He likes to do things his way. He is a great worker and will be your sharpest dressed angel. Thanks, me(Julie)
My friend Julie's facebook status yesterday. She lost her husband Matt on Saturday, March 3rd 2012. He died in his sleep, a healthy 42 year old man, of a heart attack. Today is his funeral, and his wake. A celebration of all that Matt was to so many people. With a lot of great music and beer and food and dancing and laughing. The way a wake should be, in my humble opinion. Julie's kept her sense of humor which is rivaled, by perhaps, only Matt's. She has stayed strong for her 3 kids - all over the age of 18 but kids none the less who have lost their daddy. I wish i could be there to hug her, but something tells me she is the one doing the hugging right now. That's just how Julie is.
So many of us shaken to our core by the loss of of one of our own. My friends from QVC and the Blarney and FB all intertwined and connected by the pain and the heartbreak of yet another death. Yet another loss, another gone too soon. The sheer shock of it, making even the strongest among them questioning their lives and beliefs. Hugging those they love a little tighter, fixing the relationships once broken, calling the ones they haven't talked to in a while.
Living as if each day is their last, because you never know. You never know...
So perhaps today, in your life, you can think of Julie and her kids, and of Matt. Maybe today, you can resolve to appreciate what you have and embrace those you love. Maybe even contact those you have let slip away. Maybe for today, we can all learn something from loss.
I know that I will.
PS: And I will also have a beer or two (Slainte' Matteo) - put on some Led Zeppelin and dance around the house a bit. And I will laugh... most definitely.
