...it's ma birfday...

It's my birthday WOOHOO! I love my birthday, always have, always will. Aging doesn't bother me - I am 49 this year- since I always feel young at heart (and brain lol) It's not the presents or the cake so much as the opportunity to celebrate life. My life. I like to take an assessment of where I am , where I've been and where i want to go. It's my New years eve - including the resolutions.  It's a day I get to hear from friends I don't see as much as I'd like and it's filled with love.

This year I am lucky enough to have my kid and her hubby here at my beach house for the whole weekend. Also mom and dad are down at their place too. Plus my birthday is on a Saturday which means... hello! I get a whole birthday weekend! 

I will admit that I do miss my annual party at the Blarney stone. I miss so many people that I love in one place at one time. BUT I am at the beach, we're doing a rib house - Bethanny Blues - for my b-day dinner and it's gorgeous outside!

It's been a tough year so far, and I see this next year filled with changes. 

My resolutions?

 ~I will be getting a job that allows me to make enough money that I can actually pay bills AND eat. With even some money left over to enjoy.

~I will be concentrating on getting healthy and bathing suit ready for next years big 50 trip to what's looking like Punt Cana. 

~I will start enjoying the blessing I have been given by living at the beach, instead of working until 8pm and getting home at 9pm every night.

~I will really take the time to stop and smell the ...ocean. And I will also take the time to quietly reflect on how absolutely fabulous my life truly is and will be in the coming year.

~I will work on being a better friend and reaching out to people more.

~I will finish up the "This is me Damn It book" and start the novel I have been researching. (It's about a woman who buys and renovates an Irish Bar w/ some love, friendship, murder and mayhem thrown into the mix...)

~I will seize the day; throw caution to the wind;embrace my inner child (she needs hugs lol) and give back as much as I can, to show my appreciation for all the good I have been blessed enough to receive.

                                                 

Bring it on, 49! 

Can I get an Amen?!? 

Positive Sunday Thoughts & some new quotes

Time for some Sunday night positive thoughts...and some new quotes from me.

"If you have to listen to those nasty voices in your head then do so only long enough to tell them to Shut Up, sit down and meet their replacements... the positive voices that will kick their butts!" ~Stacey

"Sometimes, when you think everything can go wrong, it does. Instead try thinking that everything will go right and allow yourself to be pleasantly surprised by the power of positivity." ~Stacey

Every woman and girl should say this to themselves every day!

LOL my friends know this is so true about me...

Stay positive... Stay Happy!! It really is that simple. ~Stacey

She Flies with her own wings...

You know the bed feels warmer,

Sleeping here alone,

You know I dream in color,

And do the things I want. 

You think you got the best of me 

Think you had the last laugh

Bet you think that everything good is gone.

Think you left me broken down

Think that i'd come running back

Baby you don't know me, cause you're dead wrong. 

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone.

What doesn't kill you makes a fighter

Footsteps even lighter

Doesn't mean i'm over cos you're gone

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger

Just me myself and i

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean i'm lonely when i'm alone

Randomly ramblin...

I spent the whole weekend and most of Monday behind the sewing machine doing those Eagles numbers and as always my mind wanders down the garden path.

 Here are some of the things that I found as I wandered and some life updates as well...


~Only 8 more days until my birthday! 48 this year... GAH!

I did not think I would be where I am at this age. I think that is a good thing. I own a house at the beach. I will be working a job I can leave at the job place and not take home with me. I am happy and content and thank God every day when I wake up.

~I will be celebrating my birthday alone for the first time this year. No friends or family to party at the Blarney.

I will miss each and every one of them too. But i refuse to let that get me down - see above...I am a lucky girl!


~Chewy, the new dog, or as I like to call him "Special Ed" is adapting well. He is now a full fledged member of the family for both me and Jack.

He's crazy, but in a good way, and really, how else would a pet I own behave? Plus he's a stone cold love bug who likes to snuggle so it's a win/win.




~Fall has arrived and down here at the beach it's been 60's during the day and 40's at night. It energizes me, this beautiful weather does.

I decorated for Halloween and sometimes just stand in my living room and full out grin from ear to ear at my beautiful house. Well probably more than sometimes...


~That said - it is supposed to be in the high 70's and full out sunny this weekend. One of the benefits (and there are many) of living at the beach is

I can go to the beach on a warm October day when every one else thinks beach season is done.


~I found out today, that I can't officially start working until I get my license in the mail. So now my start date will be next Wednesday instead of today. 

I am looking at it as a kind of spontaneous vacation. A week to do what I want before I start working every night and weekend. So today I am vegging (still trying to catch up after an all night sewing session I pulled), and cleaning. Then the rest of the week will be outside work, painting and reading and writing. Sounds like a damn good week to me.


My Phillies are trying to win the games that will get them to the World Series. October ball, it doesn't get much more exciting if you're a fan. And God knows I am a fan.

It probably goes without saying, that I Believe!Phil's are going all the way this year and I can't wait to see it!


Well thanks for joining me as I ramble along again... remember to count your blessings, hug those you love and appreciate everything life offers you - the good and the bad- because it's what makes us who we are! Wishing you smiles and peace~Stacey

ADVICE TO MY DAUGHTER(S)...

Some people know, most people don't that I started writing after my divorce. Odds and ends, stories of struggles and battles won that ended with laughter and sometimes tears. My legacy if you will, to my (at the time) teenage daughter. A way to show her how I forged, limped and rolled thru life with what I hoped was grace and strength and humor. After my a computer crash last year (can we call it a death ... cause that's what it felt like) i was scrambling to find all the bits and pieces that i had put down. I was lucky to find some of my stuff on websites and blogs on line - the rest on floppy's and cd's and notebooks. So i begin again to put it together (using a back up disc thank you very much) and as I go thru it I come across things I forgot I had written. This is one of those things. I hope you enjoy it and i hope it strikes a chord in you. BTW those are my girls in the pic, Kelly by blood, colleen and crystal by heart. I am a lucky mom!

Advice to my daughter(s)…
" Just say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't expect someone to read your mind,and don't play games with heads or hearts. Don't tell half truths and expect trust when the full truth comes out. Half truths are no better then lies. Don't be cold to someone you care about - indifference hurts more then angry words.

If you are angry - say it! Give the other person the opportunity to explain or make a change for the better. They can't do that unless they know why you're angry. In the same vein - if you care about someone say that too.

When you fall in love - love with your whole heart - and expect the same in return. Realize you deserve that - more than anything. Don't expect to change someone to make them love you - it won't work and love after all is completely out of your hands.

Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can't love and respect yourself - no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are - completely; the good and the bad - and make changes as YOU see fit - not because you think someone else wants you to be different."
--- Copyright © 2000 Stacey Charter